Dear Kia,
I have a question to ask, that I can’t be bothered googling. And a little embarressed to to ask. I once slept with this guy that wasnt circumsised. and when I pulled the skin back, it would hurt him where the skin was attached to the bottom of the head. My question is, is it like that for all uncircumsized guys?
- Naomi
Dear Naomi,
I’m certain that it isn’t like that for all uncircumcised guys or else our species would never have survived the caveman days before circumcision was invented! Maybe he had dry skin that stretched when it was pulled back. He should get an uncented, sensitive skin moisturiser and apply it to the “affected area” morning and night. But, as always with medical problems, he should see a doctor and make sure there’s no underlying troubles.
xo Kia
PS: Watch out though, he may try to rub the moisturiser in a little too vigorously and make a mess…
May 28th, 2009 at 9:41 pm
moisturising ey, might want one with flavour too.
July 14th, 2009 at 12:48 am
Actually, it sounds like he had a frenulum breve. The frenulum is the piece of skin that connects the foreskin to the head. We actually have a frenulum under our tongue, and a few others connecting our lips to our mouths as well. Women have a frenulum in their genitals as well.
Some people have “tight” frenulums, although it is not that common. With an intact male (not circumcised), pulling back the foreskin too vigourously can tug on a frenulum and cause pain, especially when the frenulum is too short to allow a full, comfortable retraction of the skin. breve means ’short’.
Worst case scenario this connecting piece of skin can tear, so it should be respected. A man could try to slowly, gently stretch the frenulum over time by pulling back the skin as far as it comfortably goes, and applying just a small amount of tension on it, to encourage progress. Certain steroid creams may help as well, but please consult a physician before using something of this nature. If stretching doesn’t work, there is a small medical procedure where a doctor makes a few strategic cuts in the frenulum to allow it to heal with a much wider range of movement. This will keep him from sexual activity for at least a few weeks, but it is a pretty minor surgery.
July 14th, 2009 at 5:24 pm
Thanks Joel!